How do we forgive? The same way we live. If we have not learned forgiveness or been taught forgiveness from an early age, we are not likely to easily process it in our minds and hearts. Stirring our memory to God’s forgiveness of us, we can and do need to forgive others. It doesn’t mean we have to agree with them or even continue in relationship with some. The Bible is very clear about those who stir up strife, you know the ‘drama’ people around you. You should be kind, but not make them your bosom buddies. Their attitude is more likely to taint your attitude if you hang with them. (Romans 16:17 I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them.) (Proverbs 17:1 Better is a dry morsel with quiet than a house full of feasting with strife.)
Deuteronomy 11:18 -20“These truths I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.”
Jill Carattini of RZIM writes, “Not only is it true that what we remember, affects who we are and shapes our affections, but what we remember deeply, what we have ‘INGRAINED’ into our very identity, is far more likely be recalled when crisis, pain, or comfort make it hard to remember everything else.”
If, as children our parents followed the scripture above, in our trouble, the ingrained ‘senses’ taught by godly influences throughout our lives, kicks in. We are able to forgive those who have wounded us or not even be wounded OR take up an offense, because we are secure knowing in whom we have believed.